13 Sexist Things About HeforShe – BY PARRIAH POTTYMOUTH

Introduction by Glenn HefleySarah

This is our first submission on the Current State of things. I’m exceedingly grateful that Parriah offered this piece to us.

You’re probably wondering why if you’ve skimmed the title and got a brief lay of the post. The reasoning isn’t difficult. Anytime you are going to spread the word (Marketing) you need to talk to people. Talking only to people who already agree with you isn’t getting the word out, it’s visiting friends. No one is learning anything new. Parriah, from my experience with her so fa,r is young, intelligent, and thoughtful — she’s also brutally honest and doesn’t mind speaking her mind. Her website Parriah Pottymouth has quite a few articles on how she views what has been going on in our country recently. Having been out in the trenches myself this year, I can tell you it’s not very nice out there. But my focus right now is Feminism, HeForShe and taking a clear look at Where Are We At?

Since Parriah is a gracious guest and has offered this article as her honest feelings I would take it as a kindness if you could refrain from commenting rash or angry words. As Emma pointed out, that has to stop. or we might as well pack it up now. I asked for honesty from her, not smoke blowing up my ass. Yes, honesty can also be a good review, whether the review or inventory is for or against HeForShe is irrelevant, as long as the writer can read it to herself and say, “yes, that’s how I feel about this, and this is why.”

So, once again, thank you Parriah for offering your thoughts and let’s let her talk for a while


Everything Sexist About Emma Watson’s UN Speech

1. The name of the campaign, HeforShe.

Even the name is sexist. He-for-She implies that He is doing something For She, He is the utility or the giver.For implies the sole purpose of He is to do something, give something, or seentitlement-e1332731711278rve She. She is the taker and receiver but never returns the favor For He. This campaign is not about equality, if it was then it would not be called HeforShe. HeforShe represents another one way relationship where feminist women feel entitled to use men to get what they want.

2. Feminism insults men for years and then asks for their help.

Emma uses “WE” often in her speech, possibly referring to the campaign or UN or perhaps in hopes to inspire a desire inside of men to be part of something bigger than themselves. “WE want to end gender inequality—and to do that they need men involved”. Ironic. Third Wave Feminism has spent so much effort isolating men and casting them aside like they were useless objects, now they come begging for men to be involved in their little social movement. How is this not extremely offensive? berlin_wall_03Feminism has built a Berlin Wall between men and women, one that is impossible to tear down with a single speech. Only when communism failed did the Berlin Wall get torn down and only the death of Feminism will allow us to tear down the wall between the DF-ST-91-01423sexes.

3. She WANTS to USE men and boys for feminism.

Emma uses “want” in her speech so much. I want, WE want, want, want, WANT. You get the impression that she’s whining, entitled, and spoiled. There is a difference between want and need; you wantI_Want_More-179ovxl cake, you need water.

“This is the first campaign of its kind at the UN: we want to try and galvanize (to get excited into action) as many men and boys as possible to be advocates for gender equality. “

Feminism will let men play their “equality” game when they are useful tools. She tells men that women want their help and therefore they must rise to the occasion and be white knights for feminism.

4. OK with man-hating, not OK with people saying feminism is about man hating

“I was appointed six months ago and the more I have spoken about feminism the more I have realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop.” Then she quotes “For the record, feminism by definition is…” like we are children. I am so glad that Emma left the Ivy L54648266eague University with the ability to read a dictionary. So wait….feminism is NOT about hating men…And I was looking at the actions of feminists instead of going by the definition of the dictionary, what an idiot I am.

5. Using personal stories just shows more gender bias.

“I started questioning gender-based assumptions when at eight I was confused at being called “bossy,” because I wanted to direct the plays we would put on for our parents—but the boys were not.” Boys are called fag, gay, homo, and other hurtful names. Emma is an example of a woman who is completely obsessed with herself. ALSO, maybe the boys were not bossy and you were bossy, which is why you got the part as Hermione who was also, bossy. “When at 14 I started being sexualized by certain elements of the press.” So was Justin Bieber, and more so than Emma Watson. “When at 15 my girlfriends started dropping out of their sports teams because they didn’t want to appear muscly.” That was their choice, it is called free will. If a woman likes to look a certain way and decides to change her lifestyle to maintain a certain look because it keeps her happy it is no one’s business but her own. “When at 18 my male friends were unable to express their feelings.” breaking-up_lies-378x4141

Men do not have to express their feelings to Emma if they do not want to. They are capable of making independent decisions and she needs to learn that despite all her money she cannot control people’s feelings. Emma might think it is unusual that men do not express feelings the way she does, but that is a sign of immaturity. She does not understand that people make decisions based on what is best for their own life. What she interprets as “unable” is actually, “not wanting to express my feelings right now and please leave me alone.”

6. No empathy or understanding on how feminism hurts others

man_hating_t_shirt_tshirt-r18e0f43884704c70b731dbd1484d12a0_f0cz6_324“Apparently I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, anti-men and, unattractive.”… “Why is the word such an uncomfortable one?”

Her complete lack of awareness is what makes her so “unattractive” (I didn’t say it, she did”) A feminist’s behavior and attitudes are unattractive, their hypocrisy and crass assumptions about men (and women as well) are unattractive. Feminists are not “strong” they are cold and cruel and out of touch with reality. They enforce their views on others without any regard to others.

7. Men’s Right’s are not human rights

Then to top it off she follows it up with rights and privileges she actually has. She believes no country, even her own Britain, can women receive these rights. Western women have all of these rights. She thinks ifeminism-feminism-34300899-960-960-e1369748683133t is right that she should be “Paid the same as my male counterparts”…. “Making decisions about my own body”…. “Afforded the same respect as men.”

All of the things she listed, women in western countries are given these rights and more! The feminist statistic of 1/3 women being raped in America are false, the wage gap is false. And the worst part is, is that the “human rights’ only includes female rights but not male rights. I thought HeforShe was about equality Emma? Nope, Men’s Rights are not Human Rights.

8. She is an elitist, not an oppressed woman.

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My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didn’t love me less because I was born a daughter. My school did not limit me because I was a girl. My mentors didn’t assume I would go less far because I might give birth to a child one day.”

Thank you Emma for sacrificing your life of privilege for the oppressed masses. What a martyr. This elitist disposition towards women is disrespectful. A woman with such “privilege” should not campaign for us inferiors when her only experience of sexism is being called “bossy”. She has no NO IDEA what it like to BE an oppressed woman. How can Marie Antoinette campaign for her maid when the only thing they have in common is their gender?images (2)

9. Granting men a “formal invitation” to serve the feminist party

First, she talks about a speech in China that took place in 1997 which has no relevance to the US in 2014. How old was Emma Watson then, 3? “In 1997, Hilary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about womeberlin-walln’s rights. Sadly many of the things she wanted to change are still a reality today. But what stood out for me the most was that only 30 per cent of her audience were male.” Just a reminder, feminism has pushed men out of the mainstream conversation about gender politics and built a giant “Berlin Wall” separating the sexes.

Whenever men talk about their issues they are demonized and shunned. Emma Watson then asks, “How can we affect change in the world when only half of it is invited or feel welcome to participate in the conversation? Men—I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation.” Is she joking? It was the most insensitive thing she could have said and it reflects her ignorance and inexperience. Granting them a “formal invitation” at the feminist party reflects her elitist Jesus-w-guyattitude and disregard for genuine equality. In her mind does she think they (feminists and HeforShe) are superior in morality and have graciously decided to reach down from their ivory tower to bring them into the glorious light of awareness because men just don’t know any better? They will repent from their ignorance and the world will have equality YAY! What a self-sacrificing martyr Emma is to deal with such disgusting filth. But no thank you is all she is going to get. Men still have a shred of dignity and pride left.

10. Men are oppressed because women are not granted their human rights

So she lists men’s rights issues and it almost looks like she cares about real genuine equality. I have to remind myself she is an actress and she gets paid exorbitant amounts of money to pretend to care in front of audiences. And then the last sentence pulls it together, oh, men for women. Now I know that is a bunch of crap. feminismMen are oppressed because women are not being given what they want, (I want I want I want) so if men give women what they want, again, then all the male oppression will end. Uh-Huh. It’s emotional blackmail 101.

“Because to date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society despite my needing his presence as a child as much as my mother’s. I’ve seen young men suffering from mental illness unable to ask for help for fear it would make them look less “macho”—in fact in the UK suicide is the biggest killer of men between 20-49; eclipsing road accidents, cancer and coronary heart disease. I’ve seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality either.”

So in order to solve these male problems we
shouldn’t focus on fixing male problems, OH NOoo!! What we must do is get these men to stand up for women’s rights, and fix women’s made up imaginary problems like the wage gap and the 1/3 rape thing, both proven to be false. Then and only then will men’s rights will be solved as a side-effect. So basically…..

11. Feminists define masculinity and perpetuate stereotypes

If men give up what feminists consider gender stereotypes of masculinity, they will become “free” from oppression. This oppression is bondage of gender stereotypes which is what causes all oppression. What Emma fails to see is that men are not stereotypes, they are people and individuals with feelings. Feminism perpetuates sexist stereotypes.

shutterstock_84981082We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that that they are and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have to control, women won’t have to be controlled.”

Emma just said men cannot freely express themselves so how are men also in control if they are being controlled by their gender stereotypes at the same time??? Emma just contradicted herself. Why can’t feminists just accept men and women as individuals with choice and free will instead of constantly trying to CONTROL and change them?

12. The LGBT Community does not exist.

“Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum not as two opposing sets of ideals. If we stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by what we are—we can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom.”

Does the LGBT community not exist anymore? Men are gay, straight, feminine, masculine, bi, and trans. Women are also gay, straight, masculine, feminine, bi, and trans. How do we have sexuality as two opposite sets of ideals? That is not reality, Emma is living in a different reality than everyone else.

13. Men and boys are not human

“I want men to take up this mantle.” Again, with the want. Emma wants men to do something for women. It is not men’s responsibility to free strangers from imaginary gender stereotypes. It is the individuals responsibility, in this case the woman, to prove to the world that she is a capable in whatever she does in life. “So their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so that their sons have permission to be vulnerable and bth_man-crying-photobuckethuman too

Men and boys are human. THEY ARE HUMAN! The fact that Emma Watson does not see men and boys as humans with feelings also goes back to why men’s rights are not human rights but women’s rights are. Men and sons have permission to be vulnerable, but they choose to display their vulnerability at appropriate times with the people they choose. 142026-143070“reclaim those parts of themselves they abandoned and in doing so be a more true and complete version of themselves.”

They are complete, Emma just does not like who they are and that is Emma’s problem because she is a sexist. It is not the fault of men. Putting her sexism on the shoulders of men and saying they need to change to make her feel better about her flaws is a despicable thing to do, like asking a black person to bleach his skin because you cannot get over how dark he is.


If you are a HeForShe and you got this far, you probably need to take a walk. She’s brutal. She misses some things, but she’s dead on for many as well. This is good stuff. This is where she’s at with moving forward with Equality. If our reasoning and our goals can not alter and soften this much, then we have some serious problems. Personally I don’t believe we are in trouble. She gives us, more or less, a to-do list of what education we need, what areas we need to address and what goals would be meaningful.

Woudl love to hear your comments, if they are constructive, or offer ideas. I will delete insults and hurt feelings address at our guest writer. She did more research in a few minutes for us than we could have gathered in a month. If you check out her web site, you’ll find that she’s been writing in this area for some time. These are not “off the cuff” arguments.

I look forward to your input as well.

She concluded her speech like this, “All that is needed for the forces of evil to triumph is for enough good men and women to do nothing….If not me, who, if not now, when.” Someone has a messiah complex.

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4 thoughts on “13 Sexist Things About HeforShe – BY PARRIAH POTTYMOUTH

  1. I’ve said before that I do not enjoy participating in destruction but rather want to strive towards construction. It’s not productive to tear apart the speech, which I think is valuable for the mere purpose of getting people to think, talk. I agree with most of Parriah’s thoughts but unlike her, I commend Emma Watson for the effort and the energy. I admire the energy within the young adult generation. Being middle-aged, I am stained with an indelible patina of disillusionment, but not enough to close my eyes to possibilities for steady pace of progress. I think nit-picking the contents of the speech is not a productive use of energy; I could come up with a list of issues as well but I don’t wan to go through that exercise. I want discuss what the speech inspires, where it takes us in our minds. I think much of Parriah’s (and my mutual) concerns with the speech lead to positive stepping stones in discussing where we are in our thoughts about the illusionary paradigm of “equality.” I believe in equal opportunity based on merit and the person – this is what I tried to explain in my g+ entry, which I am in need of refining but have not afforded it the time (Glenn, you offered to help with this….I would be privileged if you’d offer that help). I believe any person of being, regardless where they fall in the spectrum LGBTQ, should have honest opportunity based on merit, skill, ability compared equally among others in their quests. It’s a commendable thing that we are all talking and thinking about ‘equality’ and for that, I thank that actress that played ‘Hermione.’

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    • I think any time we are confronted with a jagged edge running across the surface of something we felt hope or warmth from, we’re going to wince. Doesn’t matter if the edge is there as a surgical necessity or vandalism, we won’t like it.

      I’m a few weeks from 50 years-old myself. I don’t have a history of being close to the Feminist community. In fact, early this morning I was confronted with a woman’s experience with her community being fully separatists and she was asking about that — I had no idea that things were like that in feminist circles, that Safe Zones were prevalent instead of periodic. She is the writer over at The Agoraphobic Feminist

      http://agoraphobicfeminist.wordpress.com/2014/11/13/female-identifying-only-events-are-problematic/

      The only thing I’ve been sure of most of my life is that the Equality conversation has been going on, and on. People are talking, but not listening. They have parades, events, picnics, ball games, radio interviews, TV shows, and political grandstanding — apparently when those who should be listening aren’t even there.

      The Maxim is: Communication is what is heard, not what is said. Eloquence and depth have little meaning if no one receives the information.

      I chatted with Parriah a little on Tweeter afterward. Light stuff really. Her post was effective, you have to give her that. Definitely provokes an emotional response. She told me several times that she believed that the chasm between us was angst. Years of angst, and that the rest of the stuff was pixie magic and fairy gold. Sexism was demonstrated more toward the men from the Feminists than the other way around. I had her read a semi-confessional post I wrote a few days ago and she was a bit disturbed by it. She remarked that she “felt the sexism” … and I’ve been wondering if she really ever felt it before.
      https://meforshe.wordpress.com/2014/11/15/ms-young-and-some-reason/

      Parriah is young, and if what I’ve been coming across in my scouting so far is prevalent then she has probably witness much more angst from the feminist than from any male influence in her life. I can say with some strong assurance that she feels offended by this. She feels that feminist are causing their own problems, and that by association, by merely being a strong woman, she is being treated by others like the Feminists deserve to be treated because of Feminist actions. – hope that makes sense.

      And then Emma steps up to a podium, and says HeForShe, which Parriah feels is exactly the name for the Feminists’ actions toward men now! “Feeling weak so Call the men! I’m so sick of this shit.” She told me that she really felt that Emma was given a chance to really do something, and instead, did an epic fail.

      I’m a writer and an Internet Marketing professional … while Parriah was harsh, and hurtful, she also provided me, and it sounds like you, insights in to how some young woman feel. Not only about Emma and HeForShe, but how some young women feel about Feminism. They’re pissed. They didn’t grow up in an era when it was simply blatant all the time. They never had to face the Office Couch Interviews of the 70’s or the “Hired only for Part-Time at a discount” 80’s. Back when those things were practically “normal” She was never hurt by Sexism.. not yet. Hopefully she never will be. But, she has been hurt by the Feminists. Hurt hard and for doing nothing except being herself. The first time she probably heard the word Feminist was when some guy she liked said something close to “What are you? A feminist Dyke?”

      It is a perspective I’m not sure I would have discovered on my own, but definitely one that needs to be addressed.

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