Sexism from a Feminist | Privilege

Privilege is a poem most often attributed to “Anoymous” which can frequently be found on the friges and dorm walls of sororities.

I remember the first time I read it, at the apartment of a girl friend whose room mate was a feminist. This was back in the 80s. I had a similar reaction to it today when I came across the poem while searching for other topical information. That reaction was shear disbelief that anyone could be so apathetic as to believe that because I’m a man, I don’t have any of thiese problems or fast any of the dangers.

I’ve been on my own since I was 14, my mom, who is insane, forced my out the door at gun point. I’ve walked down many streets absolutely terrified since that time. A stroll after dark? Where i live? Are you insane? You don’t stroll in the neighborhoods I lived in. Also, men are mugged and killed in the city lights far more often than women are. Not checking your back seat before getting in your car, is foolish, not a privilege. While women do get raped more often than men, men are raped by both men and women. In fact a man was raped just the other day in Seattle.

To believe that you may have rights, without responsibility or challenge or to feel that others do, is childish.- to believe that the outside evaluation of anyone’s life is equal to the life they live inside their heads, or the whole of their experience is absolutely delusional. To build this perception into a statement which condems the whole gender is extremely sexist, degrading and hostile. It is these”shames” which will continue to keep us apart. It is this poetry fo hate which will drive others, to drive you away.

I have come to acknowledge that the use of the word privilege is to denote sexism, and racism — not toward the subject the word is launced at but the person who is shouting this vile word.

a poem for men who don’t understand what we mean when we say they have it

D.A. Clarke

privilege is simple:

going for a pleasant stroll after dark,
not checking the back of your car as you get in, sleeping soundly,
speaking without interruption, and not remembering
dreams of rape, that follow you all day, that woke you crying, and
is not seeing your stripped, humiliated body
plastered in celebration across every magazine rack, privilege
is going to the movies and not seeing yourself
terrorized, defamed, battered, butchered
seeing something else

privilege is
riding your bicycle across town without being screamed at or
run off the road, not needing an abortion, taking off your shirt
on a hot day, in a crowd, not wishing you could type better
just in case, not shaving your legs, having a decent job and
expecting to keep it, not feeling the boss’s hand up your crotch,
dozing off on late-night busses, privilege
is being the hero in the TV show not the dumb broad,
living where your genitals are totemized not denied,
knowing your doctor won’t rape you

privilege is being
smiled at all day by nice helpful women, it is
the way you pass judgment on their appearance with magisterial authority,
the way you face a judge of your own sex in court and
are over-represented in Congress and are not strip searched for a traffic ticket
or used as a dart board by your friendly mechanic, privilege
is seeing your bearded face reflected through the history texts
not only of your high school days but all your life, not being
relegated to a paragraph
every other chapter, the way you occupy
entire volumes of poetry and more than your share of the couch unchallenged,
it is your mouthing smug, atrocious insults at women
who blink and change the subject — politely — privilege
is how seldom the rapist’s name appears in the papers
and the way you smirk over your PLAYBOY

it’s simple really, privilege
means someone else’s pain, your wealth
is my terror, your uniform
is a woman raped to death here, or in Cambodia or wherever
wherever your obscene privilege
writes your name in my blood, it’s that simple,
you’ve always had it, that’s why it doesn’t
seem to make you sick to your stomach,
you have it, we pay for it, now
do you understand


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